Be All In, No Back Doors
“If I’m going to play, it’s going to be with 100% commitment.” ~Brett Favre
Back doors are useful in case of fire, but employed as a life strategy disguised as “planning for the downside”, they can eventually undermine your results.
That’s like walking down the aisle on your wedding thinking, “I can always get a divorce.”
And you probably will; you’re already preparing to do so.
It’s fine to consider the downside, prepare for it even, but to live as though it’s going to happen pretty much ensures that it will.
Because we like to be right about our worries, as crazy as that sounds.
Whatever you worry about is where your focus is, and focus directs energy.
Plus, it creates a pattern that gets harder to break: dividing your focus in the present by visiting your future worst case scenario. So, you’re not really ‘present’ in the present, you’re too worried about the future to get the most out of ‘right now’.
Studies show human beings are much more productive, in 90-minute bursts, if they tackle one thing at a time. Our brains do not operate efficiently when we multi-task, as disappointing as that may be for all the type A’s out there.
To get the best results you can get, you’ve got to be all in. Not sitting on the fence, not hedging your bets, not waiting for proof that it’ll all be okay in the future. Who knows? It might not be, but that doesn’t mean you should “wait and see” before you choose to go “all in.”
You’re not all in if you’re feeling guilty, or resentful, or scared. And unfortunately, if you’re not all in, you’re all out. It’s a bitch, but it’s also a law of physics: Energy moves where intent is focused. And it moves completely.
I tell my clients it’s impossible to trust while doubting. It’s like driving your car: you can drive it forward and backward, but not at the same time.
It’s one or the other.
No back doors.
“You need to make a commitment, and once you make it, then life will give you some answers.” ~Les Brown